Lower Threshold for Joy
- We are already easily tipped into frustration, so work equally hard to be easily tipped into delight.
- Enjoyment is efficiency. The less grandiosity you need to feel good, the more happiness coins you get to pick up across your day.
- Challenge yourself: How little of a thing could happen to make your day?
- Refusing to take joy from mundane victories because they're insufficiently grand is like refusing a free ride to the airport just because you're getting on a plane when you arrive.
- Most people already have a high threshold for joy, so don't make it worse by feeling shame when little things make you smile.
Lower Threshold for Joy
- Lowering your threshold for joy doesn't just increase the amount of joy you experience, but it gives it to you immediately.
- Emotional robustness is tested by what brings you joy. A brittle happiness depends on big, impressive, and rare external circumstances lining up perfectly.
- You're already easily triggered into a bad mood by tiny inconveniences. Work equally hard to be easily tipped into delight.
- Ask yourself: How little of a thing could happen to make your day?
Mindful Chad Dilemma
- Men who are introspective and aim high struggle with feeling supported without feeling broken.
- They want to open up without being judged and believe they can achieve more without feeling inadequate.
- They desire recognition and appreciation for their suffering without being patronized.
- They want to aim high without feeling insufficient if they fall short.
- They want to achieve things but also stay present.
- Connecting is important, but too much can limit outcomes.
- Outcomes are important but not everything.