#890 - Connor Beaton - A Man’s Guide to Feeling Your Feelings
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#890 - Connor Beaton - A Man’s Guide to Feeling Your Feelings

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Men's Emotional Suppression

  • Men are often not incentivized to be emotionally open due to fear of ridicule or relationship breakdown.
  • They are rewarded for appearing emotionally intelligent by holding their emotions together, even if it's through unhealthy suppression.
  • This suppression can manifest as emotional mastery, but the underlying process is often detrimental to their wellbeing.
  • Outwardly, it's difficult to distinguish between someone who has genuinely processed their emotions and someone who is merely suppressing them.
  • This creates a confusing landscape for men navigating emotional expression.

Witnessing Grief

  • Express grief with loved ones, therapists, or counselors who can support you.
  • Recognize that grief honors what love misses and is a natural part of life.
  • Avoid deferring grief, as it can lead to depression.
  • Express your grief openly by acknowledging what you're grieving.
  • Having someone witness and reflect your grief is important.

Expressing vs. Explaining

  • To connect emotionally, express, don't explain.
  • Ask yourself if you're truly sharing your feelings about a situation or simply recounting the events.
  • Explaining lacks emotional depth, keeping your body uninvolved.
  • Expressing engages your body, allowing you to feel joy, nervousness, or any other emotion.
  • Expressing creates emotional connection with your audience.